so i did something stupid i reverted my change and tried to use it as a relay and it failed
nc -nv 2602:<my mail ip> 25
Connection to 2602:<my mail ip> 25 port [tcp/*] succeeded!
220 mail.mailserver.com ESMTP Postcow
HELO testing.com
250 mail.mailserver.com
MAIL FROM:<invaliduser@testing.com>
250 2.1.0 Ok
RCPT TO:<invaliduser@testing.com>
454 4.7.1 <invaliduser@testing.com>: Relay access denied
so im not sure how they managed to send in the first place unless me updating and restarting the containers fixed something?